Think Your House Is a Mess? Stop Doing This One Thing.

You know how you walk into your home, see all of the “stuff” and immediately feel tired or overwhelmed? Do you think your house is a mess? Do you have mail and stacks of paper on the kitchen island? Or, do you have toys scattered over the living room floor?

Defeating self talk

Some days it bothers you even more because you’re already stressed about something else. Thoughts cross your mind that may sound something like this: “This is such a mess.” “It’s hopeless.” “Why do I bother cleaning?” “We have too much stuff.” Or simply… “ugh.”

And then the self judgement…

I’ve been there too, my friend!!  I want you to know one thing today. It’s ok. Here’s what I’ve noticed. Very often these thoughts that your house is a mess are compounded by lots of judgmental thoughts. These might be thoughts like, “I’m messy.”  “I should be cleaning this up. “ “I need to do better.” “I need to get organized.” “I’m so disorganized.”

It gets more complicated

Thoughts like these just make you feel overwhelmed or inadequate. Also, if you have these feelings they will stop your progress. You will never take the action you want to take to actually declutter and get more organized. So, now you have the stress about your thoughts about the “stuff” itself AND an added layer of judgmental thoughts about yourself. It’s a double whammy.  What can you do?

Stop doing this one thing

First, stop the self judgment. Just stop. Really, girl… stop! It’s that simple! You need to stop talking to yourself that way. Anytime one of those self judgmental thoughts comes up, you can choose not to listen to it.  You don’t have to believe it. It’s totally fine to notice the “stuff”, however, it doesn’t have to mean anything about you.  

You don’t have to do it alone

If this process seems daunting to you, I can help. I coach women physicians on how to get rid of clutter so that they can create peace and growth in their lives. Click here to schedule a free coaching discovery call.  Once you are able to let go of the judgment, you’ll be one step closer to deciding what you think about the stuff itself. Then you can decide whether or not you want to do anything about it. It’s totally up to you 🙂